Boy Or Girl? We Don’t Know. And That’s Ok.

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We are now close to 29 weeks along in the pregnancy of our first baby… and no, we don’t know what we’re having.

It’s probably the question we get asked more than anything else, and it comes in slightly different forms…

Do you know what you’re having? Is it a boy or girl? Do you find out the sex? 

It’s all the same question, just different ways of wording it. But no matter how it gets asked, our answer is the same: We don’t know.

We went for the ultrasound that could have told us just before Christmas. So in theory, our gift to ourselves could have been to find out. Instead, we took the ultrasound photos we liked, printed them out, and gave them to some family members as gifts. That was good enough for us.

Now, I should say that we have had exceptional levels of support in our not finding out whether the baby is a boy or a girl. For any and all of the type A folks in our lives that would like to know so they can plan more specific and gendered gifts, we have had people who believe we’re going about this the right way.

Note: I think that not knowing has given us better colour scheme options, with greys, teals, yellows, purples, all at our disposal – without falling into any cliched traps of pink and blue.

My step-dad (the truck driver that grew up on the farm), and Jess’s dad (the hotrod driving vintage car dude), the grandfather’s to be, both have had our backs on this decision since we made it. And honestly, if nobody else understood, that would be enough for me.

I should also say that part of me does want to know. Part of me wonders if it would help me prepare better to be a dad. And then I realize, that I don’t think it would.

The people who get it, who tell us they would make the same decision not to find out, or that have made that decision in the past, smile and tell us that it’s the last real surprise in life.

That’s pretty special.

So no, we don’t know what we’re having. And because of that we don’t know what the name will be. We don’t have a pink or blue theme prepped for the baby’s room. And we’re okay with that.

Because either way… we’re going to have a baby. And that’s what I’m excited about.